Every day while cooking, my daughter-in-law mumbles something

Ms. Bui Thi Xoan (Son La) said that more than 10 years ago, when she heard her son announce that he had a girlfriend, the first question she asked him was: “What is his age?”. When she learned that her future daughter-in-law had the zodiac sign of a cat, while her son had the zodiac sign of a mouse, she immediately objected. “If a cat and a mouse live together, the cat will pounce on the mouse!”.

Hearing his mother say that, Luong Van Tuan still ignored her. During their 3-year relationship, they were opposed by both families because they were not compatible in age. “I was taken to visit his family several times, and was judged in all kinds of ways by the elders” – Ms. Tran Thi Huyen, Ms. Xoan’s daughter-in-law, recalled.

As for the bride’s family, Ms. Huyen’s parents were also not satisfied with her future son-in-law because at that time Mr. Tuan had nothing in hand and his career was unstable.

One time, Huyen was angry with him and went to visit an acquaintance 20-30km away from home. Mr. Tuan said to himself, “Try to convince me this time, if it doesn’t work, then give up.”

“Who would have thought that on the way home, there would be a love scene. The mountain road is so beautiful!… Some time later, Huyen announced ‘it seems like I’m pregnant’. I’m very happy, and think that maybe this will connect the two sides together,” Mr. Tuan said.

Just as he predicted, thanks to Huyen’s pregnancy, his parents had to agree to get married. “At first, my grandparents said they didn’t match my age or my personality, but now I have to say ‘it’s a good fit'” – Mr. Tuan said humorously.

His mother-in-law, when told that her daughter “eats before her husband”, she said disappointedly: “Why do you guys do that?”. He had no choice but to reply: “I’m stupid. Mom sympathizes, let me ask for your hand in marriage.”

Ms. Huyen said that while preparing for the wedding, both families experienced many emotions and were unhappy just because they were not really satisfied with each other. Even, “I don’t know where my mother heard the news about me loving this person or that person. Actually, I only have my husband.”

Finally, after a lot of “turbulence”, the wedding was held. Ms. Huyen became a bride when she was 3-4 months old.

Mrs. Xoan has been a farmer since childhood. To feed her four children, she raises chickens, pigs, and takes care of a 2-hectare orchard. She worked all day long, always hands and feet. But since her daughter-in-law returned, she knew she was not used to these jobs, so she never forced her daughter-in-law to go out in the sun to do anything heavy. Her job is just to help her mother-in-law cook meals.

When she first had a new daughter-in-law, Mrs. Xoan also noticed whether her daughter-in-law cried or felt sorry for herself when she returned home. But she only noticed that every time she cooked rice, her daughter-in-law often mumbled something. “Every day he mumbles, so I stalk him to see what he says.”

It turned out that Ms. Huyen muttered a poem that Ms. Xoan still remembers to this day:

“Does anyone understand Huyen?

Huyen only loves Huyen’s mother-in-law!

Although the mother did not give birth, she did not raise her

But gave birth to me a husband

Is it born?

The island was born with patience and hard work

So Huyen must do her best

When my mother is sick, she takes care of me wholeheartedly.”

Ms. Xoan confided that she had heard and remembered that poem for more than 10 years but had to wait until the show aired. Step mothershe recently confided to her daughter-in-law that she understood and loved her daughter very much for what she had sacrificed and tried.

She also noted that, although they no longer live with her husband’s parents, Ms. Huyen and Mr. Tuan are still very caring and filial to them.

In Ms. Huyen’s eyes, her mother-in-law is always a very thoughtful and resourceful person. She doesn’t often show affection or confide in her children, but she often proves it with her actions.

The day they decided to settle down in a remote area, 70km from home, she was the person who supported them the most, both materially and spiritually. Outsiders looking in may see her as a difficult person, but with her children – both her biological children and daughter-in-law, she is thoughtful and wholehearted.

Mr. Tuan said that currently, he and his wife are taking their father to their house to take care of them after he had a stroke. He and his wife also opened their mouth to welcome Mrs. Xoan in with them for convenient care. But she said she still wants to stay home and garden for a few more years.

You know, she is very sad at home alone. Many times she confided in her children and burst into tears. Mr. Tuan also expressed his hope that Mrs. Xoan “understands the hearts of the couple and their children.”

“Moms should not be strict, thinking that they can still earn money and take care of themselves, which will make the gap between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law grow wider. Seeing my mother at home alone, sad and struggling, my husband and I felt very sorry for them” – Mr. Tuan expressed.

Hearing what her son said, Mrs. Xoan shed tears. She thanked her son and daughter-in-law for wholeheartedly taking care of her father during his illness so that she could live a leisurely and peaceful life.

Mr. Tuan confided that he and his wife were able to take care of their father, which he was very proud of. That’s also how he sets an example for his children to look at so they can know how to treat their parents when they get old. “I am very proud that now, my 5th grader can feed him porridge, and my 8th grader can bathe him. The children all did those things with a happy and voluntary attitude.”

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